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So many of us yearn to birth at home, at peace with our mate or surrounded by loved ones. However, peer pressure and fear rob moms and their children from having this natural God given experience.

This page is designed to support and encourage families who wish to birth at home and are looking for positive input from others who have had this wonderful experience.

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For many years I yearned to have my babies at home. Some of my friends thought I was crazy and others thought it was awesome and indeed it was.

Baby Mia is our first and only child and the experience of carrying a little one and following her development is truly a miracle.

It was a surprise for us to find out we were pregnant for we were trying for 3 years. I came to a point that I just "Let go and let God" and believed that He knew my heart's desire and if it was His will it would happen.


On April 17, 2005 I started feeling sick with nausea and thought I probably had eaten something bad... I finally bought a pregnancy test and it was POSITIVE !!! Words cannot describe how excited and thankful I was.


We went to see the doctor, heard her sweet heartbeat and months later found out it was a little girl.


We named her Mia Yvonne after my husband's mother, Yvonne, who passed away about 10 years ago.


Pregnancy went well, Chris Duffy was so very informative and we spoke the same language because I stay away from drugs and seek natural remedies. My dream was coming true... expecting a baby and having her at home...


December 6, 5:30am I went to the bathroom and noticed my "plug" had come out... and contractions were on their way... everything was all new and fascinating to me. I was not afraid, I had such peace in my spirit for I knew all this was God's will. I also remembered to breathe with contractions as a wave... and ride it and not fight it.

Chris arrived in the afternoon.

No hospitals, no drugs, no feeling pressured to do a C section, I was not restricted and delivered my baby safely in the comfort of my own home. Of course I had made arrangements with the hospital should an emergency ocurred, but at 8am on December 7, 2005, 27 hours later, baby Mia was born.

Baby Mia Yvonne arrived and as God planned it, she arrived on the same day as her Grandmother Yvonne's birthday.... So not only she shares her grandmother's name, but also her birthdate. How about that?!

Thank you so much for the resources. The homebirth video above was moving and encouraging. Have not put too much thought into this for I am not ready to start a family, but today you have changed that complacency. I will start researching more so not to be too overwhelmed when the time comes...

Thanks again.

A beautiful story-truly a miracle! and what a blessing to have your baby at home. I had two home births as well. (they were VBACs also-I had one C-section and a natural delivery at the hospital--then, after being so disgusted with the treatment I had received by the medical establishment and also after growing in knowledge that pregnancy IS NOT AN ILLNESS! -- "I decided" to trust the MOST HIGH to do what HE designed me to do naturally.)

Also, with the decision to trust the MOST HIGH, I had to take responsibility for myself, my body, my unborn children, my pregnancy, and my birthing experience (as well as that of my children). I accepted the fact that there are no guarantees that any birth will be perfect. There is no guarantee that my home births would not be without complication JUST AS there is no 100% guarantee that all hospital births are pefect and without complications. So, I prayed about it and decided that based on my previous experiences that either way, the outcome of the birth is in the hands of the ALmighty. I would still be criticized for my decision if anything happened but I accepted full responsibility for everything. People are very forgiving if a child is stillborn in the hospital. It is "God's will." But somehow, it would be misconstrued if that happened in a homebirth.

Anyway, I was criticized, ridiculed and questioned by family and doctors for the choices I made. I did have exams and a "backup" plan -"just in case" to put people at ease. But, I was confident in myself and the MOST HIGH though. I KNEW I could do it.

I had a 10 lb 4 oz boy whopper with a 2 hour labor and 16 mos later I had a 8 lb 13 oz girl also in 2 hours. I was 37 and 38 at the time. I would love to tell more of the details but maybe in another post. The beauty of it cannot be explained in a few sentences. Sooo, it can be done. (With faith and proper nutrition, it is possible... but, I'll tell you what happened to me...)

To make a long story short....when I was 42, I delivered my 5th child in the hospital by C-Section. You know why??? I did NOT maintain my vegetarian lifestyle. I ate meat! I drank water; I exercised; and, I took my birthing herbs. BUT, all that good stuff, did not help. (I thought I coud get by becaue this was my 5th birth and I wasn't eating meat every day.) Anyway,
meat/cheese (animal protein) clogs the colon and makes the labor very painful because of the proximity of the uterus to the impacted colon. And, after many hours of very painful labor (despite taking my herbs-which probably helped me tolerate it as long as I did), I succumbed to C-Section because I felt I needed it -not pressured by the doctor/nurses.

I am not planning to have any more children, but I learned my lesson. I hope this inspires you to know thyself-know thy temple and care for it....
Peace & blessings,
Judi
PS I have posted pics from the home birth:

http://www.imageposter.com/uploads/get/47333

This is so enpowering! Mothers should not be afraid of delivering their babies at home, with family in a safe, comfortable environment! Mothers should not be pressured to have a C, just because labor may be taking too long, or be told she cannot do this or do that and our babies, should not be taken away and subjected to poking and probing and whatever else they do when babies are born in hospitals.

I was once told by a hospital staff that if a mother has a c section, the baby is given SUGAR WATER, until mother is ready to breastfeed!!!

I was shocked! SUGAR WATER?!!

Anyway... this thread is beautiful!

I watched Abby's homebirth. It brought tears to my eyes because it was beautiful. But, also, I loved seeing her husband so supportive and loving. I happen to be "African-American" (I do not like that title because Africa is a continent, but that's another story) and based on MY experiences--(I've had 5 pregnancies)--that A-A men think it weak to be loving and supportive while their women do "their womanly thing." Either out of fear or ignorance, they stay away or are cold. At least that's been my experience and observation. I know of a few exceptions though. I don't know if this applies to other races...

Back in the day, when all women were knocked unconscious while the doctor took the baby out, yes it was customary for the man to stay out of the delivery room. However, as medical practices have relaxed, it seems like White men have taken a greater interest in watching their seed manifest into this world. Yet, the "Black" man seems disinterested in this miraculous & glorious event. I've noticed that "they" don't think of it as such a big deal. Maybe they believe they will look weak if they started crying or kissing and hugging their wife, like Abby's husband. I dunno, I thought he was treating his wife with the honor she deserved for laboring to bring forth his seed. Not only should the children rise up and call the woman blessed but the father of those children should bless that woman. Black or White. What do you think? Can you relate? Got stories?

msbronson wrote:I watched Abby's homebirth. It brought tears to my eyes because it was beautiful. But, also, I loved seeing her husband so supportive and loving. I happen to be "African-American" (I do not like that title because Africa is a continent, but that's another story) and based on MY experiences--(I've had 5 pregnancies)--that A-A men think it weak to be loving and supportive while their women do "their womanly thing." Either out of fear or ignorance, they stay away or are cold. At least that's been my experience and observation. I know of a few exceptions though. I don't know if this applies to other races...

My take on this is that it is not a race thing but a human thing.., there are moms who are distant and others who choose to abort because they don't want to be bothered. I think "fear and ignorance" plagues all races and genders.

Thank you for your comments. :O)